THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T DO IN A RELATIONSHIP

1.       DON’T BE DESPERATE: when you are desperate, you won’t attract the right people, and you can’t make a sound decision when desperate. Ask Esau, who sold his birth right in desperation to Jacob for a porridge. When you are desperate, you won’t attract the right person. It drives people away from you. The law of attraction works on both sides so don’t cajole, don’t pressure anyone to be with you, anything gotten through begging must be maintained with begging.

2.       DON’T PRETEND: some people pretend to attract the wrong people, you have to be yourself and be loved for who you are. Let the person accept you the way you are. Once you start pretending, you will never be true to yourself, it’s agonizing. Don’t change yourself to please anybody. When a partner keeps complaining about you, they are managing you and one day they will get tires of managing you and move on. Go where you are celebrated and not where you are tolerated. Another man’s poison is another man’s food. He\she might not appreciate your body type, big eyes, height or even disposition but someone else will. You mustn’t change the unique things about you to please any man or woman, that they don’t like you will not reduce you, look for someone that appreciates you not manage you.

3.       DON’T RUSH: don’t rush a relationship, take your time and get to know each other. Don’t marry someone you don’t know well enough, you need people to be real to know who they are. Start every relationship with friendship, it’s not everyone that comes into your life that you should marry but out of your friends, you will definitely find someone to marry. Your friend is someone you can be free with and be yourself and not someone you have to pretend with.

4.       BE DECENT: this is mostly for the ladies, don’t be tempted to go half naked in a bid to attract someone. Nowadays, fashion is being naked. You need to leave things to the imagination. You cannot attract a real man by dressing naked, you attract an animal, you attract the wrong kind of man and when he sees someone that opens their body much more than you, he will go. You need a man who has self-control, who is not easily moved by the flesh. A woman of virtue will not open their body, they are self-confident and they know who they are. You either take it or leave it. A body will fade, it will never be that way forever, you will not attract faithful men by being half-naked.

From the teachings of Pastor Ogbueli.