TEN YEARS OF NOTHING(A WASTED RELATIONSHIP)

So it’s a brand new day and you wake up this beautiful day and you find out that your lover, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or whatever it is that you want to call your partner has decided to call the relationship quits after ten years on the basis that there is no understanding and no trust

Now my question is, what exactly have they been doing for ten years in a relationship were there has been no understanding and trust? This is to say that there has been no relationship for the past ten years because there can be no relationship without the two most important ingredient that every relationship should have in order to work.

There is this misconception that the couples and partners most especially the youth get hung up on, its LOVE. The most used words in the English dictionary but sweeties, let’s get this straight, love comes later and not before.

I know what you might be thinking, Girl on a shelf has got a bitter problem with LOVE but I don’t, I’m just being realistic because the fact still remains that sometimes, we jump the patterns of a good relationship and skip right into the patterns of a bad relationship and yet we want our grass as green as ever.

That is why it’s most advisable to be friends with your partners first before you become more. There is no reason why you should have a partner you trust and understand and still claim to have a best friend, I’m not saying it’s wrong, I’m just saying your partner should be your best friend. That person you call in any situation, that person you tell everything and anything and that person you say everything to no matter how ridiculous it might sound and you would all agree that that best friend should be your partner unless you both have not reached that level of trust and understanding yet.

Now when you have reached this level of trust and understanding, love begins to set in, what people don’t understand is the fact that every plant needs a root in order to grow together with other vital ingredients and so does emotions and feelings. Love needs a basis to grow and that basis is usually trust and understanding. You say you love your partner at first sight and yet you have not begun to understand the dimension of who they really are at first sight so how do you really ascertain the fact that you love them?

You only love a person when you know who they truly are. So instead of wasting your time lusting after your partner and being confused as to what LOVE really is to you both, how about you both start by building you trust levels and the rate of understanding you both have and let the love grow from there. Please don’t waste ten years before you find out. Your time is your most valuable investment, don’t waste it on the wrong partner.

                                                       -with love

                                                       Girl on a shelf